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Who should walk me down the aisle?

Traditionally, a job for your dad, what if your dad isn't around anymore, or you've never met him, or you would prefer someone else to walk you down the aisle? Or maybe it’s a tradition that doesn’t match your beliefs or values.

So what are your options? Who is allowed to walk you down the aisle? Or can you walk alone?

Well, here's the best bit – there are no rules here - you can pick whoever you want! But, there are a few things you might want to think about before you do make your decision.

Black and white image of a bride walking down the aisle accompanied by two men on either side of her.
Photo by Aaron Delesie

Will the person be able to handle the emotions?

Escorting someone down the aisle can be an emotional experience. If you are thinking of someone walking you down the aisle, will they be able to cope with their emotions so you aren’t both sobbing your way towards the front?

Will they be happy being the centre of attention?

A the couple getting married, you are the centre of attention for the majority of the day, but for that moment, while walking up the aisle, the person escorting you also has all eyes on them. For some people, this might be too much and they’d rather hide away in the congregation. So you need to make sure that the person will feel comfortable in the role, walking you proudly up the aisle, and not wanting to hide their face away.

Can my children walk me down the aisle?

There is no age limit here, so if you have a child, or children, who you would like to escort you, then you can.

It’s best to check with the registrar or priest before you make this decision, just in case they have their own rules.

Can you have more than one person?

Absolutely yes! You could have both of your parents or two close siblings or your two best friends if they would both be happy to share the role.

Can you walk down the aisle alone?

Yes, you absolutely can - that's what I did! If you simply don’t want anyone walking you down the aisle, then you can go by yourself. I found it pretty scary in the moment, but own it and be confident - I'm so glad I did!

Photo by Paul Grace Photography

Can you walk down with the person you are marrying?

Yes again! Throw all the traditions out the window and do your own thing! Why not have a lovely first look moment with your partner beforehand and walk down hand in hand.

Weddings are becoming less and less traditional and more and more about doing exactly what you both want.

There are still people who think that traditions need to be kept, but it is your wedding - choose who you want by your side and don’t worry about any negativity towards it.

If there is one thing we learn when we are planning our weddings, it’s that you can’t please everybody - as long as you and your partner are happy with it all, that’s all that matters.

Feel free to get in touch to chat more about wedding cake options - and keep an eye out for my next blog in a couple of weeks!

Happy wedding planning!

Miss Helen x


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